Written on December 22, 2025
Today's question was whether soul mates are a real thing. This time, I wrote down people's conversational answers shortly afterwards, by taking notes on my phone. So there's more of them, and they're more accurate since they were fresh in my memory.
One man said he wants to be an optimist but he just doesn't think soul mates exist so he put no.
One woman said she doesn't think it's limited to one person, and that each soulmate is like a catalyst for growth in your life, so she put yes.
One woman said there isn't just one soulmate for each person, and they don't all have to be romantic relationships either, so she put other.
One well dressed homeless man put four marks for yes and was about to put some for no before I stopped him. He walked by a few more times and nodded to me out of what seemed to be respect I think?
One man named Nick was smoking what seemed to be weed, and at first I didn't let him mark his answer, later telling him I thought he would start writing words on the survey as some other guys did, and told him I'd write his answer for him. We had an in depth conversation until he wanted to leave. He said no, he doesn't think love is real, only lust, he doesn't think happiness is real, and he thinks everyone's faking happiness. I asked him if some people are happy and eventually he admitted they are. He said he doesn't deserve happiness, since he has done too much wrong in his life, and everyone he knows is either dead or in jail, and his family disowned him. He said happiness isn't for him, and that he was sacrificing it for the greater good, which other people's happiness is part of.
One man said no, you just settle.
One woman put other and said we have multiple soulmates and multiple life cycles and it depends on which one you're in.
One woman said everyone has one soulmate together, Jesus.
One man who was somewhat disoriented put other and said "f*** these hoes".
One young woman said no and said it's actually optimistic because what if your soulmate dues while you're still alive and now you don't have one anymore?
One business man who wrote no said they're real but they're cats.
One young woman said the idea that it's fate cheapens the work you have to put into finding them and making it work. So she put no.
One older man who recently lost his wife put yes.
One young man who put other said that it's not assigned at birth but you have to put work into creating that perfect relationship and that it can be with anyone.
One young woman wrote Brooke + Max under yes, and had someone take a photo of her and me and the sign.
It's interesting that there were more than twice as many yes's than no's, though I didn't bother to count either side. People seem to strongly believe in this concept.
Some people said you have to grow with each other and work towards becoming soul mates, but that you can. This is my answer now. I think you have to find someone who you're very compatible with, someone you initially vibe with strongly, and then you have to grow together and work towards making a perfect relationship together.